Bumps in the Night

So its been a while since ive blogged and ive caught a bit of grief recently from boyfriend.   i  can understand his irritation, it makes it hard for him to delve into full "Nikki-ism" when i spend more time with him rather than on my computer writing away....so here we are!  its been a crazy few weeks but somehow ive managed to survive unscathed, from Ghost tours to extended work hours staying up all night, cold weather, no caffeine...idk what id do without my coffee anymore!  so lets get started!  ive decided to just pour into my blog, as of right now i dont really have a direction i want to take with it so ill just use it as a creative outlet.  some cook some craft some read...me, i shall write. 

Friday Night boyfriend and i went on a ghost walk in Colonial Williamsburg, it was interesting to say the least, although we didnt see anything spooky or scary we did have a nice time walking around in the cool autumn night enjoying the history and each others company.  i would have enjoyed it more, if i hadnt ended up in the stocks at the courthouse.  apparently spousal disobedience is frowned upon within those areas, and though we arent married (and after ending up in the stocks and the rule of thumb, im not sure i am ready for such a commitment!) apparently I was voluntold to bunker down.  thats ok, paybacks are sooo much fun :) 

after said ghost tour we went out for drinks and finally to bed...at 230 am, where i had to be up for work at 4am for a 10 hour day followed by a job interview. i tell you what if i get that job ill be impressed, i was so tired from working all day on no sleep that itll be a miracle, which embarasses me a bit since im usually pretty good at these types of things :)  i can only sit and hope it went well enough that ill hear back by the end of the week that they would like to see me again!

i think ill start a blog challenge, i had a friend send one to me once and maybe it will help guide me a bit until i can get a sense of what i want to accomplish here, i dont want this to be a place where all you do is read about my life, i want to make a difference, make someone smile or realize something amazing.  so lets continue on and see where it leads!


Love, 
Nikki

"here's a situation. my boyfriend (a fireman) doesn't want me to smoke.  which is cool, i just quit smoking almost 4 months ago and i don't have  the desire to start back up. BUTTTTTT i don't see anything wrong with  hookah. i think that's totally different, and there's no nicotine or  anything and he wasn't with me. he REALLY REALLY REALLY didn't want me to  smoke it. i was torn, i didn't want him to be upset with me, but at the  same time,i didn't want to miss out on hanging out with my friends  because he didn't want me to do something. so i guess, the advice part  is...... should i not do it out of respect for him and his wishes? or do  it, because i know i'm strong enough to not start back up smoking  cigarettes, and there's nothing that unhealthy about smoking hookah? its  essentially a social thing. not weed or anything like that."

when i searched "Hookah" on Wikipedia...


Dr. Richard D. Hurt, a medical professional at the Mayo Clinic,  claims that smoking a hookah is as dangerous as smoking cigarettes. Each hookah session typically lasts more than 40 minutes, and  consists of 50 to 200 inhalations that each range from 0.15 to 0.50  liters of smoke.  In an hour-long smoking session of hookah, users consume about 100 to 200 times the smoke of a single cigarette in a 45-minute smoking session a typical smoker would inhale 1.7 times the nicotine of a single cigarette. The water used to filter the smoke does not  remove harmful cancer-causing chemicals from the smoke as is believed by  some. However, definitive studies on hookah with proper controls have yet to be made.  There are also alternative smoking mixtures which do not contain  nicotine and tobacco-based products. There have been no studies conducted on the health effects of these non-tobacco based products, but  nonetheless many manufacturers market them as healthier herbal smoking  alternatives to tobacco (which is also technically considered an herbal  smoke). Frequently this herbal substitute is either sugar cane stalk,  sugar cane beets, or tea leaves. The reports on taste of these smoking  mixtures vary widely from each individual.
A study on hookah smoking and cancer in Pakistan was published in 2008. Its objective was "to find serum CEA  levels in ever/exclusive hookah smokers, i.e. those who smoked only hookah (no cigarettes, bidis, etc.)."Hookah smokers had higher levels of  CEA than non-smokers although mean levels were low compared to  cigarette smokers.  Overall CEA levels in exclusive hookah smokers  were low compared to cigarette smokers." The study also concluded that  heavy hookah smoking (2–4 daily preparations; 3–8 sessions a day; 2 to 6  hours net daily smoking time) substantially raises CEA levels

Alright, so based on this, if you're looking to avoid the chemicals or the nicotine period, i wouldn't do it.

whether you should not do it for him or if you think it should be OK and him get over it, when it comes to anything like that you need to make yourself happy first, then oddly enough things generally fall into place on their own creating harmony in all the right places, though with this information id say it would be best to shy away from it considering how important you quitting smoking cigarettes is, and how important your boyfriend is to you <3

Love,
Nikki

Hi There!

Dear You, 

You're sitting there, all alone at your desk, exhausted from a day chasing the kids, the dog, the spouse, the cat and the hamster...you've finally been able to sit down after a long day of corralling life and now have an opportunity to gaze at your computer screen for a while before its time to snuggle up cozy in bed and relax...somehow, you've stumbled across Love, Nikki: and i for one am glad you're here!  As you see there isn't much yet and i hope with time this will morph into something much more entertaining, but for now I'm only gonna give ya a bit of me.  My name is Nikki, i enjoy long walks on sand less beaches, thunderstorms, s-mores, and sleep.  that's about it!  

ok...ok, there HAS to be more than that to draw ya in you say?  well lets try this... i am the proud mother of 1 child, a girl named Haleigh, she is my favorite daughter in the whole world!  Together we create a plethora of chaos and fun and make everything we do an adventure!  From conquering the ever present shiny things ( excuse me for a moment, OOOH SHINY!) to tying shoes, or skinned knees, riding a bike random trips to DC or Indiana, battling the homework monster or even boys.  YUP boys.  my 8 year old daughter is growing up, and try as i might she wont stop.  even with the threat of a swift beating.   

When im not preoccupied with trivial things like children, i work full time and maintain a VERY happy relationship with my boyfriend...who shall be referred to from here on out as such, "boyfriend"  (mainly because i know how much he likes it), who also has 2 children, and i'm crazy about all of them.  

My roommate is the one who turned me on to this blogging idea, she has 2 kids who can be wild and crazy but are slowly teaching me patience and a new sense of family,  they are good hearted kids with a bit of a hyper streak that can wear me out!!  

I know it sounds all warm and fuzzy but I've led a fairly chaotic life, and have somehow managed to keep my head on pretty straight, be it from God or Karma or just plain old Luck i may never know, but jump on in and lets take a step in a new direction and see where it takes us!!

Love, 

Nikki